Here's a serious response.
I don't believe I have made the staff team bad, and the only players I've "driven away" are ones who had no intention of playing (at least by the rules), such as you and your friends. Now I'm going to give a proper response instead of the one from my phone in bed. Yes, my attitude is pretty bad, but I only direct it towards people who are deserving of it, such as you in this case. In no way shape or form would I direct it towards a player abiding by the rules and getting along with other people, rather than calling them many derogatory slurs. Granted, you haven't done that in this appeal, but you did it plenty in the past with your only excuse being that it wasn't punishable back then, and therefore it's alright.
Har Mar is an idiot at heart, he called people everything under the sun just for the fun of it, no other reason. But now that the server has an active player base he wants to play again, he doesn't deserve to do so. People who followed the rules and treat other players well, deserve that privilege to continue playing without hindrance. I'm British, I like making fun of people. I don't make fun of random people though because I'm an Administrator for CSi, and therefore I only target "idiots", people who deserve to be treated as such because they don't follow the rules, especially people like Har who use every slur in his little book simply because it made him giggle.
I don't really know what you said, but me calling someone a "illiterate baboon" and an "ape" (referring to their intelligence of course) I imagine isn't comparable to what made you kicked from the community, but I can say for sure in comparison to Har, I am nowhere near his level.
I do in fact love banning rule breakers, I won't lie! The guy who said he would demote me in an instance has clearly never been in any management position, not to mention that is a clear bias, since I imagine he has no view on the situation at hand, just what you painted for him, as if it even matters.